Introducing food into your sex play is one of the easiest ways to liven things up without breaking the bank, or even bringing something unusual into the house – and that means that it can often be done at a moment’s notice, depending upon what you might have in your fridge. Go simple by using popsicles as dildos, pudding as a dipping sauce for body parts or a fresh-squeezed orange as a delightful reason to lick the moisture from your partner’s body. Or go elaborate by feeding your partner from your body – you become the plate and your partner eats aphrodisiacs from you, such as melted chocolate, pomegranate seeds, or even sushi and oysters on the half-shell! Just remember to have plenty of warm towels for cleanup when the fun is over for the night.
Getting it on with toys isn’t what it used to be. Now it’s much more fun! Remote controlled toys used to have wires that forced you to be ‘connected’ in a way that wasn’t possible to hide. But now, there are plenty of remote controlled gadgets that can be run by a simple switch in your partner’s pocket. If you are in a long distance relationship, there are toys that allow you to control your partner with Bluetooth technology or through an internet connection. A good example: A small bullet that can be inserted into the proper orifice, and the vibration can be controlled via text messages sent to your mobile phone. The options are endless!
How often do we make sure to cover up when going out in public? That’s the law in most places, after all. But unfortunately, this usually translates to home, too – and we cover up even when we are lying in bed reading a book. Learn not to do this by walking around the house naked or in barely-there lingerie. Choose clothing that is modest but not – like a sheer, see-through top or a bra that pushes the assets to new heights. Though you might not want to wear these out in public, they can definitely turn up the sexy at home. And if you do choose to wear them in public, there are places that welcome that, such as the swinger’s club.
Sure, you know how to talk dirty…right? But what if the dirty talk is getting old? What if you have heard the same things over and over? It’s time to spice it up with the kind of talk that would make anyone blush and stammer. Start by going to the masters of dirty talk – porn stars! What do they have to say to their partners in crime? What are they talking about while they get banged by a room full of sexy partners? That’s what you want to say. So steal a few lines, craft them into a dialogue of fantasy, and surprise your partner with your filthy mouth.
Who says sexting is just for teenagers? It seems like a taboo thing for adults to do, which is exactly why you should do it. Send the naughtiest texts you can to your partner, and ask them to do the same for you. Send pictures if you’re brave enough for that. Just be sure to make good on all that sexy buildup when the long day is done – and prepare for some hot sex that will make you wish sexting (see: 12 Steamy Sexting Examples You Can Use Right Now)had been around years ago.
Sensation play can be one of the hottest (or coolest?) things you can do in bed. Many people think that it takes a lot of time, so they don’t bother – but the fact is that preparing for sensation play is as easy as getting a small bowl of ice cubes from the freezer and a few cups of hot tea from the kitchen. Use the ice cubes in every way you can imagine, from holding one in your mouth while going down on him, to using them to make nipples hard and sensitive, to licking the water from heated bodies. Then alternate the cold sensation with the hot, by using the warm tea in the same places you just used the ice. Be sure to have some towels handy for drips!
Maybe you believe you are one-hundred-percent heterosexual, and you want only the opposite sex in bed with you. But that might make trying something out with the same sex even more enticing, especially if it’s something your partner wants to see. At the very least, it gives you a chance to explore a body that is just like yours, with all its mysteries and quirks. Plan out a list of things that you want to do, or things that your partner would love to see you do, and then decide which ones you definitely want to try. Anything that happens after that is something that comes in the heat of the moment. Who knows – you might find that you like it much more than you expected to.